Dating Diaries: He apologised for having a girlfriend and told me he was ‘going to break up with her tomorrow’!

Welcome to the dating diaries, where we speak to real people about their dating experiences. We cover the good, the bad and the ugly of the dating world. Our aim is to not only entertain you, but help our readers to navigate their own dating lives, by picking up tips and learning from other people’s experiences.

We hear from a 26 year old beautician who dated a 26 year old electrician!

Where did you meet?

We had known each other for a long time, since we were 11 years old because we went to secondary school together.

In school, we never really spoke or hung out with one another because I was pretty nerdy and hung around with all the ‘geeks’.

He was cool and popular, and honestly, he was the one that all the girls fancied, including me. I don’t think I would have ever stood a chance with him or even had the confidence to let him know I fancied him because, admittedly, I was not the most attractive girl in school, and I don’t think he would have ever looked at me that way! He used to get all the pretty girls!

Around 10 years or so after leaving school, he messaged me on Instagram; we had had each other as friends on Instagram for years but never really spoke on there, just the odd like of each other’s pictures.

By this time, I was not the nerdy girl I used to be in school; I had definitely been through my ‘glow up’, and I looked way better than I did at school. Not only that I also had more confidence and self-esteem.

He must have liked what he saw because one day, he messaged me, asking how I was and making general small talk. This led to us exchanging numbers and speaking quite a lot.

We used to spend hours on the phone laughing and joking about school days, and I felt like we had a really good connection.

We spoke about the old days in school and even laughed and joked about how I was nerdy, how he was cool, and how he never noticed me.

He had a different version of this to me; however, he seemed to believe that we spoke more than we actually did. I guessed that he didn’t want to come across as being a dick that he didn’t really notice me in school, but now I was pretty, I caught his eye.  

After a week or so of talking daily via telephone and messaging, we arranged to go out on a date.

Where was your first date?

We went for drinks at a rum bar in the town centre, nothing too special or too crazy, just casual drinks!

How did it go?

“A week after our date, I received a message on Instagram from someone claiming to be his girlfriend”

It went really well at first, and it was probably one of the best dates I have had, in all honesty.

We met at the bar; he was punctual and made an effort. I remember he looked nice and smelt good, which was such a turn-on for me. I love a man that looks after himself.

There was lots of chemistry and flirting and what I liked most as well was that we were both being quite silly, and I felt like I could be myself around him. Nothing was too serious.

At the end of the date, he came back to my place and we slept together. The next day, there were no awkward moments, and we had breakfast in bed together.

We proceeded to talk with one another daily, and we were even in the middle of arranging a second date when, a week after our first date, I received a message on Instagram from someone claiming to be his ‘girlfriend’.

The message was nasty and unkind, she said she had seen messages between us on his phone and called me a Bitch and a Slag. She explained how she had been with him for 3 years, and she had found messages from me.

Angry about her verbally attacking me, I gave it right back to her, and it ended in a back-and-forth of us both hurling insults. I did, however, manage to explain that I clearly didn’t know he had a girlfriend, and if I did, I would have never agreed to meet him.

I was furious by this point. I called him and shouted down the phone about him cheating and told him that his girlfriend had messaged me and that he was a snake for pursuing me and sleeping with me. I honestly didn’t give him a chance to speak or to ask if it was she was saying was even true.

He then texted me the below message:

I honestly couldn’t help but laugh because how can you tell me you were ‘going to break up with her and 1. Expect me to take you seriously. 2. Expect me to believe you!

I didn’t bother to respond, as I was completely done with him by this point. Everything was based on a lie, and I was angry that he had made a fool out of me!

I called one of my friends to tell her what happened, and she advised me to cut all contact with him; I didn’t need a liar, and I certainly didn’t need or want drama from his girlfriend.

I blocked his number and blocked him from all my social media, as I wasn’t interested in his explanations and reasons for being dishonest.

I figured it was only one date we had been on, so I would get over it pretty quickly, and that is precisely what I did.

Did you see one another again?

I saw him a couple of times a night out, and both times, he tried to get my attention; when I didn’t give him that and pretended like he was not there, he tried to talk to me, but I ignored him and carried on having a good time.

This was like a year ago and I have not seen him since then. I have heard that he now has a child with the woman that he cheated on with me. Each to their own, but more fool her, once a cheat, always a cheat, I say!

What dating advice would you give to others?

I would advise others, especially women, to walk away straight away when a man shows that he cannot be trusted or disrespects you! Do not give in to giving him another chance; it won’t end well, and you will end up being hurt.

Walking away in the first instance will mean that you can prevent heartache and drama!

Rate the date:

It has to be a big fat zero, but they say you have to kiss lots of frogs before you meet your prince and now I have now met my prince so I couldn’t be happier!