Dating Diaries: My Date Gave Me Scabies!

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32 year old female Nurse dates 34 year male old IT consultant

Where did you meet?

We went on a blind double date with my friend and her husband.

I had been single for a long while, and my friend was always on the lookout for potential partners for me.

She rang me one evening, sounding very excited. She told me her husband had invited one of his new colleagues over for drinks at their house, and she thought we would make a good match.

She told me how he had been single for 6 months and he was exactly my type!

My friend, being my friend, wanted to set up a double date with her and her husband. She had already planned it before even telling me about him; she had told him that she had a friend he may like and she thought it would be cool for us all to go for dinner!

She organised it all and wouldn’t tell me his last name so I could stalk him on social media before!

Where was your date?

We went to an Indian restaurant in our town centre.

How did it go?

“I went to the GP and he told me I had Scabies”

I was quite nervous at first, and I nearly backed out. I remember calling my friend and telling her to send me a picture of him, or I wouldn’t be coming. She managed to talk me around “Trust me, you are going to like him when I have ever let you down?”

My friend told me to dress up as she was, so I did exactly that.

I got to the restaurant after everyone else; I did this on purpose because I figured it would just be better if I arrived after, LOL.

When I got to the restaurant, I noticed him immediately; true to her word, my friend did not get it wrong!

He was exactly my type physically! He had thick curly hair; he was tall, olive-skinned and he had a nice smile. He had that shabby sheek look, which I love in a guy.

The night went well. I had never been on a double date before, but I liked having my wing-woman there to big me up and sing my praises in front of him.

We laughed and joked all night, and he was really friendly; it didn’t feel like I had just met him; it felt like we had been friends for a while.

After dinner, we all decided to go to a nearby bar for some drinks; about an hour in, my friend and her husband headed home, but myself and my date decided to stay for another one. We got very tipsy, and he invited me back to his place.

We got a cab to his flat; his flat was nice, a proper bachelor pad. We played drinking games, things got flirty, and we had sex.

In the morning, he was a true gentleman; he made me breakfast in bed, and we left on good terms, talking about a second date with just the two of us this time.

He was planning to go to visit his parents in Italy for a few weeks, so we would have to wait until he was back, but we said we would FaceTime and text one another.

After around 2 weeks of our date, I noticed I began to develop an itchy red rash on parts of my body, but mainly in between my fingers! I had never had problems with my skin and began to worry about what it could be.

I went to the GP, and they told me I had Scabies! I won’t lie I was disgusted and embarrassed! The GP told me you can catch it by having close contact with someone infected or sharing towels and beds with someone who has it.

From then I instantly knew it must have been from my date! I lived alone and had not had any close contact with anyone else!

I was a little nervous about telling him because I didn’t know how he would react. I was thinking that he might try to blame it on me, and I was also thinking, what if I have this seriously wrong and he hasn’t infected me?

Luckily, he was very mature and cool about it but very embarrassed. He said that he had developed a rash a couple of days after I left, and it added up because the doctor told me it could take 6 weeks to develop symptoms even if you are infected.  He had put it down to Psoriasis.

He told me that he would get treated in Italy. He also apologised and hoped that It wouldn’t ruin things between us!

Did you see one another again?

At first, I was a little grossed out, but I figured it wasn’t his fault, and anyone could get it. There is a common misconception that only dirty people get it, but It has nothing to do with hygiene! Plus I had been in his flat, which was clean and tidy!

We had many dates after that; in fact, we had a 2-year relationship, and it ended because we wanted different things, so we decided to break up!

Regarding the Scabies, we decided to keep that quiet, and to this day, I still haven’t told my friend that set us up or anyone else!