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In this weeks dating diaries, we talk to a female Company Director who dates a male IT consultant. She tells us how her date was put off by her vision board!!
Where did you meet?
We met on a dating app, we were talking on the app for around a week, exchanged numbers, and began talking on WhatsApp.
We spoke on WhatsApp for a couple of weeks before we arranged a date.
Where did you go?
We live in different cities, so he drove to my city and we went to a French restaurant in the town centre.
I don’t usually date guys that are from the city as me as its a small place and everyone knows everyone, so I tend to date outside. For safety reasons I always prefer the guys to come to me. I just feel a lot more safer and secure that way!
How did it go?
“Whilst having dinner he said to me, you do realize we have been on a date before don’t you?”
When I first got to the restaurant, I noticed he was a lot shorter than what he had told me he was. He had said that he was 6 feet tall, but he looked around 5’10 to me.
I questioned him about this by saying something like ‘I thought you said you were 6 foot?’ and he said he had ‘rounded up his height’. I didn’t hold this against him as I guess some guys can feel insecure about their height, we both laughed it off.
I was impressed with the way he looked, he looked really smart and well presented, It made me fancy him even more.
The date was going well but I did feel like I was doing most of the talking. I was quiet clear on what I wanted and he said that he wanted the same things.
Whilst having dinner, he said to me, “You do realize we have been on a date before, don’t you?” This completely threw me off, and I was quite shocked and confused, to be fair.
I felt so embarrassed that I couldn’t remember our previous date, and I think it made me look bad too, like I was a serial dater that went on so many dates, that it would be easy to forgot him!
I was also annoyed that he did not say anything earlier, so I asked him why he didn’t bother to mention it, and he explained that he didn’t realize until we were talking over WhatsApp.
He went on to say that he was always going to mention it but thought it was funny and he wanted to see how long it would take for me to notice.
He told me that we had been on a date about a year ago, after meeting online and that we had gone to a bar, he described the bar, and it all came back to me!
He went on to tell me that our previous date had been in a bar and he described where it was and the area we went too. That’s when it clicked and it all came back to me!
We ended up just laughing it off, although I was still quiet embarrassed that I couldn’t remember!
Did you see one another again?
“He had seen my vision board and decided he was not ready for anything serious with me”
We stayed in touch after the first date for a couple of weeks, and we did see one another again, but I wouldn’t say it was another date. He happened to be in my city as he was visiting friends, so called me to see if I was home. I wasn’t doing anything so agreed to let him come over.
He stayed for a little while and we just hung out, that was the last time I would see him. He had seen my vision board in the front room and decided he was not ready for anything serious!
My vision board consisted of everything I wanted to manifest, I had pictures of a handsome muscular man, a little girl (I wanted a another child) and a wedding ring amongst other things.
He told me before he left that he had noticed everything on the board and could see I wanted something serious! He told me that whilst he “wanted them things, he did not want it right now but in the future”.
I was a little disappointed because he was my type, but I can’t say I was gutted, we only went on one date and it’s not like we had spent a lot of time together.
Rate the date:
7/10
What advice would you give to other daters:
My advice would be to always follow your gut instincts, never ignore red flags and last of all do not give up, it may take a while to find the right person.
